Category: Quick Read
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How Cybercriminals Gain Access You can’t stop cyberattacks, cybercrime, and, by extension, cybercriminals. They’re out there, hiding, lurking in the shadows, working tirelessly to steal, harvest, and sell your data—credentials, passwords, Personally Identifiable Information (PII), sensitive and confidential information—and your hard-earned money. That’s the unfortunate reality of the world we live in. But all’s not…
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Healthy vs Controlling Boundaries Distinguishing between safe, respectful, healthy boundaries and controlling boundaries is important for fostering positive, respectful relationships. The following indicators and this infographic (click image below) can help you make that distinction: When Statements Are Coercion Disguised as a Boundary In relationships, statements that seem used to set boundaries can sometimes mask…
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Battling Disguised Coercion In Aging Introduction As people age, they often face a subtle yet pervasive form of status anxiety called disguised coercion, in which society truncates their human worth by equating aging with a loss of utility and obsolescence. Rather than accepting this marginalization, older adults can reclaim their personal value by shifting their…
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When Boundaries Are Misused Boundaries are important in daily life, mental health, and overall well-being. They are a foundation of healthy relationships, peace of mind, and individual well-being. Unfortunately, disguised coercion, often misused to erode boundaries, may be wielded to gain compliance and control. And while boundaries are designed to protect an individual’s autonomy, emotional…
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The Post-Role Autopsy When we tie our worth to a job title, we often unknowingly adopt external expectations as our own. This is disguised coercion; the expectation doesn’t feel like pressure; it feels like choice. We often apply this pressure to the roles we take in our professional lives. CEO, Principal, and Founder are powerful-sounding…
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Introduction What do family, colleagues, friends, and digital distractions all have in common? They’re frequent intruders in the landscape where focus is indispensable: Time. Consider time as a landscape of exclusion, and time management sits at the intersection of focus, time burglars, and disguised coercion. Time burglars and disguised coercion are inexorably linked to how…
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Excerpt From Performativity & the Ideology of Efficiency The core tension we need to identify is subtle but crucial: Efficiency claims to optimize for output, but performativity optimizes for visibility. The difference between the two is the difference between a technical promise and the appearance of the same promise. Efficiency says: “Get the maximum result…
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A powerful and deeply human idea. Status anxiety is that quiet, persistent hum in the background of our lives. It’s the fear that we aren’t measuring up, that we’re falling behind, or that others see us as failures because we don’t have the right job, car, house, or lifestyle. It’s disguised coercion because the drawing…
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IntroductionThe Core Point Worth Making ExplicitParental CoercionCultural CoercionWhat Purpose Looks Like HereWhat Meaning Looks Like HereWhere the Distinction Earns Its KeepConclusion Introduction Many adults, including Gen Xers, are currently living a life dictated by someone else. It’s a life with a predefined, predetermined purpose. That’s bad enough. What if instead, purpose is viewed as a…
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IntroductionSteadfastness In Legacy-Building for a Gen Xer Intent On Value-MakingGo Beyond Outputs: Create SystemsEmbracing the “Unfinished” WorkPitfalls to AvoidConclusion & Key Takeaways Introduction Time is a predator that stalks us all our lives. What have I learned? This: Stay engaged with the possibility. Let’s face this fact: Sooner or later, we all begin to feel…